Children // Psychology and development

How to help your child in school issues

Everything starts as it may seem, with minor points: the difficulty in remembering letters, inability to concentrate or slow the pace of work.Something is written off in the age - is still small, not used to;something - a lack of education;something - a lack of desire to work.And it was at this point the problem is still relatively easy to find and easy enough to fix.But then the problems begin to grow like a snowball - one leads to another, and form a vicious circle and terrible.Continuing failure arising strongly discourage the child and pass from one subject to another.

students begin to consider themselves incapable, helpless, and all his efforts - useless.Child psychologists believe: learning outcome depends not only on human abilities to solve their tasks, but also on the confidence that he will be able to solve this problem.If failures follow one another, then, of course, there comes a time when a child himself inspires that, no, it's never I did not succeed.And never once, then there is no need

to try.Abandoned dad or mom casually: "What you have me confused!" - Can only add fuel to the fire.Not just words, but just the attitude, which is demonstrated even let unintentionally, but with the reproach, gestures, intonation says to a child sometimes more than big words.

What should parents do if problems have already appeared or how to help your child in school issues?

no need to consider the difficulties arising from school as a tragedy.

Do not despair, and most importantly, try not to show their discontent and disappointment.Remember, your main task is to help the child.For this love and take it for what it is and then it will be easier.

need to set up and prepare for the upcoming long-term collaboration with the child.

And remember - he alone is not able to cope with their difficulties.

Home assistance is to support self-reliance.

necessary to try to save him from the guilt and stress because of the failures.If you are absorbed in their own affairs and allocate a minute to figure out how the case or to criticize - it does not help, and the foundation for the emergence of a new problem.

Forget the old phrase: "What have you got today?»

no need to require the child to immediately talk about their affairs in the school, especially if he is disappointed or upset.Leave him alone, if he has confidence in your support, you will likely tell you everything later.

no need to discuss with the teacher the child's difficulties in his presence.

It would be better to do without him.Not in any way, do not scold the child, if his friends or classmates are close by.It is not necessary to admire the achievements and successes of other children.

interested in doing homework only when you are helping your child regularly.

During teamwork patience.Since the work is aimed at overcoming the difficulties the school requires the ability to hold back and very tiring, do not need to raise his voice, calmly explain and repeat the same thing several times - without anger and recriminations.Typical complaints from parents: "All the nerves exhausted ... There are no forces ..." Do you understand, what is it?Unable to restrain an adult and a child to become guilty.All parents feel sorry for yourself first, but the child - are rare.

Parents somehow think that if there are difficulties in the letter, you need to write more;if poorly considered - more examples of solving;if you can not read - read more.But these classes are tedious, do not give satisfaction and kill the joy of the work process.So do not overload the child that he turns out badly.

It is important that in the course of employment does not prevent you and your child feel - you are with him and for him.Turn off the TV, do not interrupt the class, do not be distracted, to run to the kitchen or make a phone call.

also important to decide with which parent the child is easier to do homework.We moms are usually milder and do not have the patience, and perceive they are more emotional.Pope quieter but stiffer.We must try to avoid a situation where one of the parents, having lost patience, is replaced by another.

Still need to keep in mind that the child, who have school problems, only in rare cases will be fully informed, he asked to the house.There's no malice - just homework is almost always given to the end of the lesson when the class is all noise, and your child is tired, and the teacher can barely hear.Because at home, he can quite honestly say that he was not asked.In such cases, learn from classmates about homework.

Preparation of homework should be a total duration of continuous operation of not more than thirty minutes.Pauses during homework necessary.

No need to strive at all costs to do all your homework right.

child needs help and support from the different parties, so try to find a common language with the teacher.

If case of failure, it is advisable to encourage and support, and any, even the smallest successes should be emphasized.

most important in helping your child is to encourage him for his work, and not just words.This may be a trip to the zoo, a joint walk, or a visit to the theater.

children with school difficulties should be observed and measured a clear day regimen.

We must not forget that these children usually nesobrannosti, restless and, therefore, they did not just observe the regime.

If a child gets up in the morning with difficulty, do not rush and do not customize it once again, the best place in next time for half an hour before the alarm clock.

evening, when it's time to go to bed, you can give your child some freedom - allow to go, for example, from nine to nine-thirty.A child needs a good rest on weekends and holidays, without any educational tasks.

If possible, be sure to consult with your child by specialists - speech therapists, doctors, teachers, psychoneurologists.And follow all their recommendations.