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How to help your child and yourself to overcome the negative emotions

First, help your child to hear and understand himself.Ask what color his mood, in any part of the body it feels irritated, and to what extent - the sadness.So the kid will learn to better navigate in their own feelings and release events (stimuli) that cause a certain emotion.

So you are with your child understand the reasons for his bad temper, and that exactly what sensations he experiences.Now - help him overcome negative emotions.

As a rule, all parents teach kids that you can not vent their frustration and anger at the surrounding people, animals and even - subjects.From an early age we are taught that to be angry and to express their anger - bad a priori.Kids punished for aggressive actions against other people or thrown into the blue stone - which is understandable.But the child also gets a penalty for spoiled in anger thing.Of course, do not allow children to spoil the expensive things because of a bad mood.But, unfortunately, parents rarely realize that a child needs to offer an alternative.A

nd instead of kicking a beautiful dish, you can "blow off steam" in a specially harvested for purposes such subjects.

"Leaves of Anger" - a great way to relieve stress.On the Internet you can find a lot of pictures that are painted specially for such cases.Print this leaf - let hang in the nursery on the workplace (but not directly in front of the eyes), and waiting in the wings.What is easier: in a moment of irritation to rip a piece off the wall crush badly, stomp, and then break into a thousand tiny pieces and throw it in the trash.An even more efficient way: the kid has to draw the wrath of literary self.If you see that the child lost his temper, ask them to draw on a blank sheet the object of irritation.Let then the kid pririsuet offender green mustache, a black eye, "zakalyakaet" it.Or - attach list as a target for the door and shot crumpled paper from the tube.

"Cushion Bobo" - an attempt to take the subject to physical aggression.Get a special pillow (or - punching bag), which the child could be from the heart to beat.You can draw on her eyes or make inscriptions "villain", "Mr. midges", etc.But, do not use for this purpose soft toys and dolls.

After the anger and irritation got out, and the baby calmed down a bit, it's time to discuss the incident.Disassemble the situation, angry little man, and together look for a constructive way: think of how that situation will not be repeated.Or, if the chance is great that this is yet to happen - develop a plan of how to respond to such an event the next time.

Resentment is familiar to every child.And for adults to children, there are two extremes of grievances.First: do not allow your child to express resentment.Shame.Cause guilt, making it clear that this is - "wrong" emotion."At offended carry water," "Do not blow lips - lopnesh" - often hears the baby, to demonstrate that hurt.The result of this attitude is sad: the child feels "bad" once he experiences the feeling condemned and forced to hide their grief from parents.Second, parents are rushing headlong to fulfill any desire of the child, as long as it took offense, and thus - to grow out of the baby skilled manipulator.The children, who are used to control the parents by means of demonstrations of resentment, even as adults, continue to emotional blackmail relatives.

In dealing with the child to avoid these "excesses."Be sure to let the son or daughter to express their resentment.Be attentive to your child: even just listening to it, you can significantly relieve him of stress.Often, contracts, support, and seeing relatives, the child understands that ceased to be offended.If the baby continues to experience negative emotions, help rationalize his offense: with "break it down" together decide how to change the situation so that it no longer hurt the feelings of the child.Develop a plan and enlist your support, he should cheer up considerably.

But do not encourage play "offense".If a child tries to manipulate you, pouting - do not go on about it.Try to defuse the situation joke.If this does not help, try for some time not to pay attention to the kid: having lost the audience, "the young thespian" stop the play.

If a child is sad, it is best if you can talk privately about befallen his grief.Be serious.No kidding, even if the trouble will seem trifling.Show respect for the feelings of the baby.Expresses support for the heart, avoiding the banal senseless words.Try to cheer up the child only after he will say whatever he wanted about the trouble, and perhaps vyplachetsya.Bodily contact with a loved one is extremely important - take baby's hand, hug - and he feels much stronger and faster overcome the grief.

to negative emotions can be attributed, and melancholy.When a child misses the fact that return to him after some time (my mother had gone on a business trip, or the child for the summer left home), the most effective way to help overcome depression and doterpet to the long-awaited hour - something to carry away the baby:offer an interesting lesson, read an exciting adventure book.You can come up with special "ozhidatelnye" rituals for every day - how to help bring desired.If a child is sad for the lost irrevocably (death of a loved one, death of a pet, moving to a permanent residence in another country), allow to work out the psychological mechanisms associated with the loss, providing child support.

So, we looked at how to help your child and yourself to overcome negative emotions.But remember that whatever the children's grief, the best thing that will help your child cope with negative emotions - it is his unwavering confidence in your love.

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